IM applications have revolutionized communication between people and their rise has reached such a dimension and so quickly, that is ahead of our ability to determine their proper use.
There are many applications that allow us instant messaging, but the most successful nowadays is WhatsApp, even to his name with the word Guasapear or Whastappear have spoken..
The phenomenon is so new that there are hardly any serious studies that have determined the possible harmful consequences of its continued use.
The benefits for its low cost, immediacy, group interaction and maintaining relationships make these tools very useful and attractive for communication between people.
But therapy is increasingly seeing that are emerging problems associated with their abuse, especially in relationships. It is necessary a review of these tools by professionals, in order to be able to establish educational guidelines on the prevention of addictive behaviors and interrelational conflict.
Do not misunderstand, do not argue. Shallow conversations.
This tool is great for short, immediate, and as a way to keep in touch with people without making too much effort messaging. But it is important to note that as a means of communication it has obvious limitations related to the lack of nonverbal communication.
Some studies show that when people communicate in the verbal content it only represents about 10% of the impact of the message leaving a 50% non-verbal communication and another 40% to the key members accompanying message (paraverbal communication) . If we consider that in our messages the elements that represent “how” we communicate are emoticons or capitalization, the chances of “mistakes” in the interpretation of the message are very high, especially if we found in altered emotional states or situations of conflict.
Therefore, in the times when you want to address an important issue of some significance for the relationship we have with the person to contact, the messages should be restricted to approach a conversation in person whenever possible.
A reasonable number of connections
There is no specific number or any reference that allows us to establish a proper limit for everyone, and we each have our particular circumstances of use. Now, when we realize that we are constantly alert to the mobile, we review it all the time so we start worrying about the dependence generated.
It is curious to observe how the number of zombies are increasing alarmingly in the streets… people who are able to walk without looking ahead, with his hands while writing while they smile, cry or worry without ever bumping into anything (usually). It seems as though these people could not miss a second communication, since for them only walk is to move. With the intention of leaving this alienated state, you should not write walking, lifting his head to watch the road and people, allowing a break of connection and focus on external stimuli and sensations.
Whatsapp use during personal interactions
With the use of the technologies we are used to maintain our relations “virtually”. We must not forget that the essence of social relations is in the live matches live, where we can capture all the richness of the messages of others and allowing us to enjoy the emotional connection through mirror neurons.
If in general we find it difficult to encourage in-person meetings, it is desirable leave aside the constant reviewing of our mobile phone. This does not mean we have to turn off the phone every time we meet with others, but it is true that to pay attention to the conversation and convey to the other person that we are talking with, it may be advisable to keep the phone silent.